MISTAKE IN MY SPOUSE
Love expression in a relationship goes wider than what you imaging, when having relationship with opposite sex, you want to express your love that you truly love him/her. We realized that spouses do expressing their love to each other through giving special gifts; or verbal expression, speaking it to the hearing of his/her spouse. In this case, this brought us to a topic “Mistake in my spouse” Mistake do come in a relationship before their wedding day, during their courtship period; but this takes both to analyst their mistakes and to honestly lays the mistakes on a round table, and also ready to accepts each other mistakes. As we learn in the book of Hosea 3 v 1-3, “The Lord said to me again, ‘Go, love a woman who has a lover and is an adulteress, just as the Lord loves the people of Israel, though they turn to other gods and love raisin cakes.’ So I bought her for fifteen shekels of silver and a homer of barley and a measure of wine. And I said to her, ‘You must remain as mine for many days; you shall not play the whore, you shall not have intercourse with a man, nor I with you.’
Going further to what prophet Hosea wrote; we realized that he wiped off her mistakes, and he repurchased her back to himself. Here we are talking about the true love you have toward your spouse that can makes you overlook his/her mistakes, by helping him/her out of the guilt; as what the book of Jude 23 tells us. But going through the C part of Jude 23, which says hating even the tunic defiled by their bodies.
PERIOD COURTING IN RELATIONSHIP PART 1
We will be discussing about this topic for some time on this site, for the well growth of our christian families all over the world and as we know now in the house hold of the believers, courtship needs to be handle more importants, many broken marriages we have now, only because of lack of impatient of many couples to go through propare stage of courtship. bear with us on this web-site line on this topic, it will be continue later
What is the meaning of courtship?
Here we realized that many christians proclaimed to believes in christian marrige, but the proper way to go through the process of marriage they can't bear the patience; so i define courtship as the stage of both couple knowing each other, and learning the differences and the short coming of each others. In this period of time both have to be honest and not hiding anything to each others, and be ready to abides with the rules of the Kingdom of God about marriage. Many ignored this rules and their marriage hitted the rock in some years later, as we can see this in the case of Tamar because of the man that asked for her hand doesn't have time to courtship with her; as we can see this in Genesis 38 v 15-26,"15When Judah saw her, he thought her to be a prostitute, for she had covered her face. 16He went over to her at the roadside, and said, ‘Come, let me come in to you’, for he did not know that she was his daughter-in-law. She said, ‘What will you give me, that you may come in to me?’ 17He answered, ‘I will send you a kid from the flock.’ And she said, ‘Only if you give me a pledge, until you send it.’ 18He said, ‘What pledge shall I give you?’ She replied, ‘Your signet and your cord, and the staff that is in your hand.’ So he gave them to her, and went in to her, and she conceived by him. 19Then she got up and went away, and taking off her veil she put on the garments of her widowhood.
20 When Judah sent the kid by his friend the Adullamite, to recover the pledge from the woman, he could not find her. 21He asked the townspeople, ‘Where is the temple prostitute who was at Enaim by the wayside?’ But they said, ‘No prostitute has been here.’ 22So he returned to Judah, and said, ‘I have not found her; moreover, the townspeople said, “No prostitute has been here.”’ 23Judah replied, ‘Let her keep the things as her own, otherwise we will be laughed at; you see, I sent this kid, and you could not find her.’
24 About three months later Judah was told, ‘Your daughter-in-law Tamar has played the whore; moreover she is pregnant as a result of whoredom.’ And Judah said, ‘Bring her out, and let her be burned.’ 25As she was being brought out, she sent word to her father-in-law, ‘It was the owner of these who made me pregnant.’ And she said, ‘Take note, please, whose these are, the signet and the cord and the staff.’ 26Then Judah acknowledged them and said, ‘She is more in the right than I, since I did not give her to my son Shelah.’ And he did not lie with her again.
PERIOD COURTING IN RELATIONSHIP PART 2
As we said at our last discussion of this topic what Judah did to tamar, we realized that it had being long ages mistakes had being occuring in marriages, courtship is important to build a long lasting marriage, we look at Gen: 34 v 5-14, "
5 Now Jacob heard that Shechem* had defiled his daughter Dinah; but his sons were with his cattle in the field, so Jacob held his peace until they came. 6And Hamor the father of Shechem went out to Jacob to speak with him, 7just as the sons of Jacob came in from the field. When they heard of it, the men were indignant and very angry, because he had committed an outrage in Israel by lying with Jacob’s daughter, for such a thing ought not to be done.
8 But Hamor spoke with them, saying, ‘The heart of my son Shechem longs for your daughter; please give her to him in marriage. 9Make marriages with us; give your daughters to us, and take our daughters for yourselves. 10You shall live with us; and the land shall be open to you; live and trade in it, and get property in it.’ 11Shechem also said to her father and to her brothers, ‘Let me find favour with you, and whatever you say to me I will give. 12Put the marriage present and gift as high as you like, and I will give whatever you ask me; only give me the girl to be my wife.’
13 The sons of Jacob answered Shechem and his father Hamor deceitfully, because he had defiled their sister Dinah. 14They said to them, ‘We cannot do this thing, to give our sister to one who is uncircumcised, for that would be a disgrace to us.
Here we realized that Jacob refured to give his daughter out for marriage because she defile before without being ask for her hand in marriage; we realized it is good to courtship before marriage to avoid mistake in the future
To be continue
PURPOSE OF SEX IN MARRIAGE
In book of1Cor 7 v 2-5 “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife and likewise the wife to her husband, the wife’s body does not belong to her alone, but also to her husband in the same way the husband body does not belong to him alone, but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time,so that you may devote your selves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you, because of your lack of self control.
In this bible phrase I realized that sex is a powerful thing between the married couples, this let us know that sex is among the duties of a husband and as well the wife. Bible goes on further to let us know that Satan can comes in to that relationship if they deprives each other of sex, as we wrote in the section of this web-site about sex in marriage, that sex is good in the life’s of the married couples, we further said it is spices in the marriage life. Now we are talking here about the purpose of sex in marriage which we will list some purposes of having sex in a marriage
1. Natural sexual appetite: In 1Cor 7 v 8-9 “Now to the unmarried and widows I say it is good for them to stay unmarried as I am. But if they cannot control themselves they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Medically doctor do gives advice to have sex if it had being long time for married person, in the case of some situation where one departed to another land for business, in this case they should make sure they come together to fill up the gab.
2. Reproduction: In Gen: 3 v 16 “To the woman He said “I will greatly increase your pains in child bearing with pain you will give birth to children, your desire will be for your husband and he will rule over you. We can see that God gave this order for human to reproduces for the increase of humanity.
Also in the case of another tribe in the bible between Boa z and Ruth in the book of Ruth 4 v 13 “So Boa z took Ruth and she became his wife, then he went to her and the Lord enabled her to conceive, and she gave birth to a son.
THE IMPULSE IN THE VEIN
We know that our body system needs proper cares and the vein works along with our tissue. The blood flows through the vein and it works positively to our body and this to do with the kinds of food we eat. The impulse in our vein works along with our brain that is why we need constant exercise, talking about the vein in our BODY; it affects our immune system if there is no proper diet, so let learn to eat proper diet food.
SEX IN MARRIAGE
A cartoon work to explain
Brought to a topic; Single parent in right with God, which can take us for many weeks
SINGLE PARENT IN RIGHT WITH GOD part 2
As we said in our last discussion, that our society tag the singles parenting as no-good and irrelevant people in the society we live in now, but today we will first talk about widows single parenting, brethren it takes courage’s to be able to go along with children, in this situation of hard economic crises, if the fellow is not properly rooted in the Lord, for bible recorded an account of a widow that had two Sons and there was no- opportunity for her to earn a living and her creditors are ready to take her two sons away, because of debts, but thanks to God for sending His prophet to help her out of her problem, we can see this in the book of 2Kings 4 v 6c-7.“Bring me another one.”
But he replied, “There is not a jar left.” Then the oil stopped flowing.
She went and told the man of God, and he said, “Go, sell the oil and pay your debts. You and your sons can live on what is left.”
Brethren I want us to wipes this ideology away from our head and stand for the way to help this ones to re-covers their real lives or I will say for them to be able to stand as single parenting in our societies in this economic crises;we should make them believe they can brings good and intelligent children to our generation we live in now, as bible tells us in the book of Eph 6 v 1-2. As a single parent in the Lord, bible makes them to understand that they are not bound not to re-marry if they find believer that march them after the unbeliever left (1Cor, 7 v 15) reading this column of the verse, it open up the understanding of the bible that it brings peace to re-marry in the lord and for the well training of they children in the Lord.
SINGLE PARENT IN RIGHT WITH GOD
In the book of Matt; 19 v 4- 6, “Haven’t you read he replied ‘that at the beginning the creator made them male and female and said for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate”.
we made to understood that God blessed marriage and He let us to know that two will come one flesh, but there is importance thing in His decree, He cote " Let man not separate" This made us to know fact that it is good thing to marry, but let not forget the topic we are treating here which is Single parenting, if we realize that bible tells us in 1Cor 7 v 8-9 that coming to marriage, brother Paul told us in his episode, a man or woman can decides to be single just like him, but don't let us forget that we are talking about single parenting which happened to some of our Christian brothers and Sisters through their mistakes, before or after their Salvation, which many of them had paid a prizes of being backslider. Here can we say they have no-right in the Kingdom ministry, i remember a phrase in the bible that says " We have a father that corrects us in our mistakes.
TO BE CONTINUE
TRUST IN MARRIAGE
Matt: 19 v 8-9
The definition of trust stated in it short meaning is to strongly believe in some one, and rest secured in that person, no-matter what maybe. Coming to trust in marriage, bible tells in Matt, 19 v 5 “ And said for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife; and the two will become one flesh. In this case we realized that parent plays a much role in the life of a child, some children are more closer to their mother or father, fatherly or motherly caring is so powerful indeed in life of a child, but in this case another stronger trust comes to a child, for him/her leaving that strong caring of his/her parent means there is a stronger caring that brings stronger trust in a child and that can make him/her more mature. We can see this in the case of Abraham and Sarah in the region of the Negev in the book of Gen; 20 v 11-13. In this bible quotation it made us learned trust in our relationship.
We had talked about this topic once, but we realized that some couples still needs to go through this article to learn more how to handle their relationship
Sex is good, it is a spice in marriage, and it makes relationship taste good. But it is not what really makes marriage works. What makes marriage or relationship works if I would ask? It is the affection and trust you have for each other in your relationship that count, giving total self to one another, knowing that your spouse is the part of you that is missing when he/she is not around you and be ready to be honest to each other in your relationship or marriage, so that both of you can have a great future and unending Love which God promised in Marriage. This takes us to another topic that says:
WHAT COMES YOUR MIND WHEN ASKED FOR MARRIAGE
1. To have a helping mate
2. Having one to reason with.
3. Having one to fall on his/her shoulders when problem comes.
4. Having one you plan your life with.
5. The one you have intimate affection with.
Analysis rate from the United State of America stated during the year 1997rated that out of the marriage held in a year, about 80 per-cents record showed that before the year runs to an end the rate of broken marriages or divorces is about 65 to 70 per-cents. With the depression in all round life styles, whether be it financial or in the mental stress can make us ask “what comes to mind when asked for marriage? but off recent on one of the US, site call, Us marriage. com. The topic was raised "Marriage Bond" it stated "
A marriage bond is document obtained by an engaged couple prior to their marriage. It affirmed that there was no moral or legal reason why the couple could not be married. In addition, the man affirmed that he would be able to support himself and his new bride.
First we think marriage as an institution that bound two people together to become one, after knowing this, it gives us the deep meaning of marriage which shows that, their are in union with each other as what bible tells us in Matt, 19 verses 4-6, “He answered have you not read that He who created them from the beginning, made them male and female and said. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and bond fast to his wife and they shall become one flesh? So they are no longer two but one flesh what therefore God has jointed together let not man separate. One devote his/herself and time for the other, and giving total self for one another, ready to absorb things be it negative or positive, and learning to solve problem together, taking your spouse the way he/she are, a deep love comes this way that last a long life relationship.
COLOSSIAN 3 VERSE 18
MARRIAGE AN INSTITUTION FROM GOD PART 3
“Wives submit to your husband as is fitting in the Lord
Home building in the Lord Must shows the qualities of God, automatically without anyone trying pointing out some correction to the couples involves in it. In our first line note of discussion stated “wives submit to your husband, this tells or let us to know first most wife must submit to her husband first, for bible tells us in
Gen, 2 v 7 “The Lord God formed the man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath o f life and the man became a living soul This shows that man takes the image of God or a bit part of God. As we know God is the head of all, like wise husbands must be the head of a wife, as we can see it in the book of Matt, 7 v 1-2.
MARRIAGE AN INSTITUTION FROM GOD PART 2
THEY ARE ONE FLESH
Matthew19 v 4-6 “Haven’t you read he replied ‘that at the beginning the creator made them male and female and said for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate”
1 Corinthians 7 v 1-4,
We talked about Marriage as an institution from God last section as well we mention that both a helper to each other. As an helper
MY HELPER I DO: What do you mean on alter by saying I do?
- I do: To share the load in the marriage together
- I do: To be a helper in solving problem together. Colossi ans 3 v 15, “Let the peace of Christ rule in your heart, since as members of one body; you were called to peace. And be thankful.1 Timothy 3 v 2-3b
- I do: To share each others burden, talking about burden we can point out different kinds of burden, for example
In sickness: We leave in the world of sin and hatred, which part of the sins that can springs sickness; remember bible tells us we have an advocate that plead on our behalf. When affliction comes you are there for each other to fight it together through your prayer and having emotional for each other, 1Thessalonian 5 v 17. Doing this you can easily conquer sickness by faith
4. I do: In sharing the burden of finance, helping each other to carry the financial aspect of problem your home1Timothy 3 v 3c “Not lover of money
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